From sirens to safety: Disaster relief volunteers comfort traumatized refugees

“You are safe.” These were the words a Ukrainian woman, her daughter and an elderly woman needed to hear while waiting for their train. “Breathe in. Breathe out.”

Mickey Ebert first spoke these words to a woman and her daughter at a train station in Suceava, Romania. The mother tried to put on a brave front as she walked into the station. Ebert welcomed her and handed her a piece of paper saying, “Hope for Ukraine,” with a QR code on it. When the mother turned to sit down, tears filled her eyes.

Ukrainian refugees board a train headed to Bucharest, Romania. The refugees crossed the border from Ukraine and now head to find lodging in other cities. IMB Photo

Ebert leads a team of Southern Baptist Disaster Relief volunteers who represent the Baptist state conventions of Missouri, California and Texas. She’s a member of First Baptist Church in Independence, Missouri. To date, Southern Baptists have donated more than $8 million to Send Relief and the International Mission Board (IMB) to go toward Ukrainian relief efforts.

“Were you scared?” Ebert asked the daughter tenderly. She nodded, and Ebert later said it was evident the daughter, age 10, was also striving to be strong for her mother.

“You are brave. You are full of courage. You are here in a safe place,” Ebert said

Ebert’s voice is soft and gentle, with the tenor of someone who often works with children, and she has indeed – at age 71, she has 40 years of teaching experience. In addition to teaching, Ebert also worked for the National Archives and was a chaplain for a disaster relief chainsaw team. Ebert got her start in SBDR during Hurricane Harvey in Houston, Texas.

“Let them take care of you; they are safe,” Ebert told the girl and her mother, gesturing to the help station in the center of the waiting hall.

Romanian volunteers are at the station around the clock. Train tickets are free for Ukrainians.  One volunteer, Klara, said at the beginning of the crisis, she worked 20-hour shifts as the fire station’s red buses ferried weary Ukrainian refugees from the border of Romania and Ukraine. Most of the volunteers went to the border, Klara said, and not many thought to come and assist Ukrainians who were boarding trains to take them to cities across Europe.

Mickey Ebert leans in to pray for a Ukrainian woman. Ebert always asks if she can pray for those she interacts with. Ebert is the leader of a team of Southern Baptist Disaster Relief volunteers who represent the Baptist state conventions of Missouri, California and Texas. IMB Photo

Donning their yellow hats, vests and volunteer badges, Ebert, and SBDR teammates Diana Scoggin from First Baptist Camdenton, Missouri, and Terry James from King’s Trail Cowboy Church in Whitewright, Texas, decided to visit the train station with Marcela, a Romanian Baptist, to pass out juice boxes and pray for refugees waiting for transport.

For 18 of her teaching years, Ebert taught fifth grade. After learning that the girl is 10, and that she was in fifth grade, Ebert shared how she treasured those years she spent teaching fifth graders.

“Leaving at 10 years old, you may have had to leave your pet. At 10 years old, all your safety is with your school, your home, your parents. If she has a father, he’s there fighting. There’s no adventure. There’s just grief and sadness and that feeling of leaving all that you knew.”

Ebert asked the mother and daughter if she could pray for them.

Before leaving, Ebert told the girl she was beautiful.

“No, you are beautiful,” the girl told her.

Ebert noticed an older refugee woman sitting a few seats down from the mother and daughter. The woman sniffled and wiped away tears.

The night before their conversation, four rockets landed near her home. One of them exploded. She didn’t know what happened to those who were near, and she was worried about the people who remain in her town.

Though there are no alarms or bombs on this side of the border in Suceava, she said she still hears ringing in her ears – the sirens are not abating in her mind or memory.

“Tell her she is safe now,” Ebert told a translator.

Diana Scoggin, left, and Mickey Ebert, hand chocolate milk and juice boxes to a Ukrainian mother in a train station in Suceava, Romania. Scoggin and Ebert came on a Southern Baptist Disaster Relief Team and are representatives of the Missouri Baptist Convention’s disaster response. IMB Photo

“When you turn on the TV you see war; when you turn on your phone, you see the war. You can’t escape the reality; you can’t get over it; you can’t just ignore it because you have no way to ignore it,” the woman told Ebert.

“She even prays for the Russians to be healthy because you have to pray even for the enemy. It doesn’t matter. No one should die,” Klara translated.

Jesus said you should love your enemy, the woman explained, and she was raised to believe this.

Ebert asked to pray for her.

“Earlier we prayed for health; now we pray for peace,” the woman said.

Ebert and the older woman bowed their heads, and Ebert voiced a prayer asking for peace for the woman and for a silencing of the sirens in the woman’s mind.

“I prayed for her, and I prayed for the Russian people. I prayed that God would hold her in His hands and give her a peace over [what’s happening in] Ukraine, but also a peace in her heart and a peace in her mind,” Ebert said.